LM, it's no surprise to read your love for your Papo and gain an insight into how wonderful a man he was. It shines through in your writing and from what I understand in your shared outlook on life.

Your essay reminds me of a recent conversation where I was discussing you never know who stands behind and supports a person. We see and interact only with the apex of where they stand. Often behind them is a legion of experience and family and friends that have helped form their personality and character.

You raise some interesting questions whose premise suggests taking responsibility; otherwise, why do if it has no meaning and purpose or brings no satisfaction and joy?

I think in most situations, this holds, but sometimes lack of motivation and work to rule may be in response to an interpretation of a situation. For example, a person may feel they don't have the power or privilege to push for anything else.

I agree it is a dangerous and confusing rhetoric and not one we should lead with. Unfortunately, I have not read enough to understand how much it is being encouraged or observed. What I would say, playing devil's advocate if we know why, perhaps we could give allowance to those who feel unheard, undervalued or maybe in the process of transitioning their way out.

That said, I agree that if you are complaining with no intention of making a change or taking agency when it is within your power, then you might as well accept the situation and give it your best.

I didn't mean for such a lengthy reply, but you asked some fascinating questions. I will get off my soapbox and end with thank you for sharing a personal, heart-warming, thought-provoking and well-written essay that, in many ways, rightfully questions what appears to be the zeitgeist of this time.

Oh, did I say, I am loving and rocking your narration? Superb narration and write, LM. 😊